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Introduction

This article begins with a short video that stayed with me, along with a chain of associations and personal reflections that followed.

In my initial reaction, I tended to interpret what I observed in a direct and somewhat emotional way. However, as I thought about it more carefully, I realized that if I wanted to turn these experiences into something with explanatory value, I needed to separate the underlying variables and impose more discipline on how I expressed them.

The goal here is not to evaluate any particular group of people, but to address a more fundamental question:

Why do people exhibit drastically different behaviors in different environments?

1. Starting from a Specific Experience

The situation in the video itself is simple. A content creator was invited to visit a family that had achieved considerable financial success. During the conversation, the creator was repeatedly interrupted, questioned, and pulled back into the host’s familiar narrative framework. Eventually, the creator chose to leave after a short time.

What drew my attention was how closely this resembled some of my own past experiences. In my previous work environment, I had encountered similar interaction patterns: being interrupted, having my viewpoints challenged, and watching the conversation gradually turn into an asymmetric process of “validation.”

At the time, my interpretation was relatively straightforward. I tended to attribute these situations to individual-level differences, such as cognition, upbringing, or values. But over time, this explanation began to feel insufficient.

2. Shifting the Focus from “People” to “Structure”

If we shift the question from “why does this person behave this way” to “what kind of environment makes this behavior more likely,” the path of explanation changes significantly.

Here, I find it useful to frame it in a simple structural form:

Individual behavior does not originate entirely from the individual; it is largely shaped by the structure in which that individual operates.

This perspective aligns with a structuralist view in sociology, where individuals do not act in isolation but within constraints defined by existing rules, incentive systems, and resource distributions.

More importantly, structure does not merely influence behavior; it reinforces it through selection mechanisms. Behaviors that align more closely with the current structure are more likely to receive positive feedback, be retained, and then replicated over time.

This means that when we observe a pattern of behavior that appears “common,” it may not reflect shared traits among individuals, but rather the result of continuous structural filtering.

3. From “National Differences” to “Contextual Differences”

In my earlier framing, I sometimes used “domestic” versus “overseas” as a contrast. But analytically, that distinction is too coarse.

A more precise description lies in differences between contexts, or what can be understood as distinct “fields.”

A field here refers to a localized system with its own rules and incentive structures. Examples include:

Organizational hierarchies within companies
Churches or volunteer communities
Technical learning or discussion environments

Different fields reward and reinforce different behaviors.

In environments where outcomes and power dominate, behaviors such as control, dominance, and suppression of uncertainty are more likely to produce short-term gains. Over time, these behaviors are reinforced and normalized.

In contrast, in environments oriented toward long-term relationships and collaboration, listening, maintaining boundaries, and respecting others’ expression are more likely to be rewarded.

The differences I perceived, therefore, are not fundamentally about countries, but about the contrast between two distinct fields I have experienced.

4. Cognitive Conflict and Behavioral Response

Returning to the host in the video, his behavior becomes more coherent when viewed through a structural lens.

When someone has achieved success within a particular structure, that structure tends to be internalized as a “valid path.” Encountering another individual who is successful outside of that path can create discomfort.

In psychology, this can be understood through cognitive dissonance, where conflict between an existing cognitive framework and new information produces psychological tension. Individuals tend to resolve this tension by rejecting, questioning, or reframing the new information.

In this context, interruption, questioning, and repeated redirection of the conversation are not necessarily issues of manners alone, but may function as mechanisms for protecting an existing cognitive structure.

5. Personal Experience and Structural Choice

Within this framework, I began to reinterpret my own experiences.

For a long time, I operated within a field that emphasized outcomes and control. Over time, I became increasingly aware of a misalignment between that environment and my own values. This misalignment did not appear immediately, but accumulated into a persistent sense of discomfort.

When I later entered a field oriented toward relationships and mutual respect, that discomfort noticeably diminished. Changes in behavioral norms led to shifts in communication style, interaction patterns, and psychological experience.

From this perspective, I am not comparing different kinds of people, but rather contrasting two different structures, and making choices based on that comparison.

6. Limits of the Model

It is important to acknowledge the limitations of this analysis.

First, my observations are strongly shaped by personal experience and do not claim general applicability. Second, variation exists within any given field, and no category is internally uniform. Third, individual differences always matter; structure does not fully determine behavior.

This model is therefore better understood as an explanatory tool, rather than a definitive conclusion.

Conclusion

Once I shifted my attention from individuals to structures, certain experiences that once felt difficult to interpret became clearer.

Instead of attributing discomfort solely to individual differences, I began to recognize that:

in certain structures, the behaviors being reinforced are fundamentally misaligned with my own values.

Under those conditions, changing the environment is not an act of avoidance, but a more direct and coherent form of choice.

References

Festinger, L. (1957). A Theory of Cognitive Dissonance. Stanford University Press.